Gay and single . . . forever? : 10 things every gay guy looking for love (and not finding it) needs to know / Steven Bereznai.

Gay is good : being gay and single used to be, too -- There is a conspiracy -- Love is not a hierarchy, even if gay progress means pretending it is -- Husbands and boyfriends don't guarantee happiness -- The happiest gay singles are "single by choice" -- Wanting to be with someone is natural: not wanting to stay with him is, too -- You can find intimacy and emotional growth without a boyfriend -- Fuck buddies and tricks are relationships -- Boyfriends can be like prostitutes: prostitutes can be like boyfriends -- Boyfriends and husbands don't protect against AIDS.

"Singledom is emerging as *the* pariah status, and is the starting point for this unprecedented book. Author Steven Bereznai is a catch--and yet, at 31, he has never had a boyfriend. 'Is Singlesville my final destination?' Bereznai wonders. Or does a partner await? And what does he really want--to pair up, or to maintain the independence of a single life? Here, Bereznai investigates the basic question of whether there is room for him, and other single gay men, in a post-Stonewall era where the push to partner with a man has replaced the pressure to marry a woman. Through a mix of personal narrative, interviews with dozens of gay men, including Andrew Holleran and Michael Bronski, and social and psychological commentary, Bereznai has written a book that will resonate among gay men, the majority of whom, even today, spend most of their lives unattached."